After going through the most excruciating labor pains ever, I knew that I was never going to have another child. Ever. Thank God the intense labour only lasted a total of four hours and the moment I held Xena in my arms, I said a prayer then turned to my husband and whispered to him with all the strength I could muster “Never again!” As soon as she started walking, Xena wanted to be all over the place and she would always get so irritable if one tried to force her to just chill and cuddle either on the couch watching movies or in the bed chatting away. Once this happened, I jokingly started threatening her that I would get another baby, one who I could hold in an embrace for as long as I wanted. This became all I could think of for a while. I mused on having another daughter, named after my mom and hopefully with the same temperaments as her. So I went through the whole process yet again even after vowing that I would never get another child. Of course the baby making bit was fun (isn’t it always hehe), the pregnancy was harder (I think it gets harder with age: Xena-27, Xia-30) and the labour was twice as painful (I lost all my composure this time round and screamed like I was at a funeral in Luhya land!) but quite fast (intense labour lasted only 1 hour).
There is a lesson here guys. We go though so much to bring babies into this world but they grow so fast and become independent at such an alarming rate. One moment the kid can’t even swat a fly off their face and the next they are rolling over and you can’t leave them on a high surface, unattended. Then next thing they are sitting, crawling and breaking all your photos- the ones on the low-level console. Before you know it, they don’t want to cuddle and once they start going to school, at some point they are even embarrassed to be seen kissing you goodbye (I hear toddler boys are like that).
I have therefore learnt to cherish all these precious moments because clearly nothing lasts for ever. Especially the warm embraces. For as long as I can, I will grab my Toto Wrap carrier and secure Xia safely on my front or back, or even my side and enjoy her warm embrace because I know there shall come a time when she shall authoritatively tell me “Mommy put me down, I know how to walk!” (famous words by Xena)
Today, my mom turns 60 years old. While I don’t think I can ever repay her for all the headache and heartache she went through just to ensure that my three siblings and I made something of ourselves, I am grateful to God for blessing her with two granddaughters, and certainly one who will carry her name and legacy! And so I dedicate this post to her, pray that I can be half the woman she is and wish her many more happy years filled with love and laughter. Mom, your life has just begun!
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Love, Joy & Xena